Counselling
for Men
in Cornwall & across the UK
Maybe you’ve been carrying this on your own for long enough
You might be reading this from your van before work. Sitting in your car after another difficult day. Or lying awake at night wondering why everything feels so much harder than it used to.
Perhaps you’ve always been the one who keeps going. The one people rely on. The one who gets on with it.
But lately, something feels different.
Your mind won’t switch off. You’re overthinking everything. You feel constantly on edge, exhausted or disconnected from the people you love. Maybe you’ve become quieter than you used to be. Maybe you’re more irritable. Maybe you’re simply surviving each day rather than really living it.
If any of that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
And you don’t have to keep carrying it by yourself.
You don’t have to be at breaking point to benefit from therapy either. Sometimes it’s simply about recognising that life doesn’t have to feel this difficult anymore.
Therapy that feels like a conversation, not an interrogation
Many men tell me they were nervous before coming to counselling.
They worried they would sit opposite someone who quietly analysed them, judged them or told them everything they were doing wrong.
That isn’t how I work.
I’m not here to criticise you.
I’m not here to tell you who you should be.
I don’t expect you to walk into the room and trust me immediately. Trust takes time.
This is somewhere you can stop pretending everything is okay
Sometimes we’ll spend the first few minutes talking about football, music or even the logo on your T-shirt before we get anywhere near the difficult stuff. That’s okay.
Therapy isn’t a test.
It’s the beginning of a relationship, and relationships start with people getting to know one another.
There will be serious conversations when we need them.
There will probably be moments of laughter too.
Therapy doesn’t have to feel awkward or clinical.
It should feel like somewhere you can stop pretending everything is okay.
Looking beneath the surface
When men come to see me, we don’t just focus on the anxiety, the anger or the low mood.
Together, we’ll look at what’s underneath them.
Sometimes anxiety is trying to protect us from uncertainty.
Sometimes anger is protecting hurt, shame or grief.
Sometimes depression grows from carrying too much for too long.
Sometimes trauma keeps the past feeling as though it’s still happening today.
Understanding those patterns doesn’t change the past, but it can change the way the past affects your present.
It’s about helping you move towards the life you want to live
When life begins to make more sense, meaningful change becomes possible.
Because therapy isn’t simply about feeling better.
It’s about helping you move towards the life you want to live.
How I Can Help
I’m Lee Martin, an Accredited BACP Counsellor and Accredited EMDR Therapist based in Porthleven, Cornwall, offering face-to-face counselling from my practice in Porthleven and online therapy for men across the UK.
I work with men experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma, stress, burnout, relationship difficulties and the devastating impact of baby loss, including miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal loss.
Alongside counselling, I offer EMDR therapy, an evidence-based approach that can help people feel less burdened by the past, so distressing memories no longer have the same hold over everyday life.
One of the most rewarding parts of my work is seeing someone realise that a memory which has affected them for years no longer carries the same emotional weight. It’s difficult to describe until you’ve experienced it yourself, but those moments never stop amazing me.
Whether you’re looking for support with anxiety, trauma, baby loss or simply feel that life has become overwhelming, we’ll work together at a pace that feels right for you.
Why I do this work
Before becoming a therapist, I worked in education and drug and alcohol rehabilitation.
Like many of the men I now work with, I’ve experienced anxiety, self-doubt, depression, trauma and the devastating loss of my own son, Ray.
Those experiences don’t mean I know exactly what you’re going through.
Every person’s story is different.
But they do mean I understand how overwhelming life can become, how difficult it can feel to ask for help and how important it is to feel genuinely understood.
I spent many years believing I should simply get on with things.
I don’t want other men to wait as long as I did before discovering that life really can change.
Life can begin to feel lighter again
The name “There is a Light Therapy” comes from something I’ve held on to through some of the hardest moments of my own life.
No matter how dark life feels, I believe there is always a light somewhere.
Sometimes we can see it.
Sometimes we can’t.
But that doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
Those experiences taught me something I’ll never forget: people can heal, hope can return, and with the right support, life can begin to feel lighter again.
What Therapy Can Help You Achieve
Every person’s goals are different, but over time, many men tell me they notice they are:
- Feeling less burdened by the past and more able to focus on the present.
- Spending less time trapped in worry, overthinking and self-doubt.
- Feeling calmer and more in control of difficult emotions.
- Becoming more present with their partner, children and the people who matter most.
- Growing in confidence by taking one brave step after another.
- Starting to ask, “Is this right for me?” instead of constantly wondering, “Am I good enough?”
- Communicating more openly and building stronger relationships.
- Understanding themselves more deeply instead of simply getting through each day.
- Feeling more hopeful about the future and the life they want to build.
The aim isn’t to become a different person.
It’s to help you reconnect with the person you’ve always been beneath the anxiety, trauma, grief or depression.
Location & Fees
I offer face-to-face counselling and EMDR therapy from my private therapy room at The Net Loft in Porthleven, Cornwall, as well as online sessions across the UK.
The practice provides a comfortable and confidential space in the heart of Porthleven, within easy reach of Helston and surrounding areas of West Cornwall.
Each 50-minute session costs £70. This usually takes place weekly, although we can discuss what works best for you.
Face-to-face counselling & EMDR
Porthleven, Cornwall
Online counselling & EMDR
Across the UK
Not sure whether therapy is right for you?
I offer a free 15-minute introductory telephone call. This is an opportunity to tell me a little about what’s happening, ask any questions and get a sense of whether working together feels right.
What I Can Help With
People come to me for help with a wide range of issues. Here are a few of the more common difficulties that I have counselling experience and training to help:
Baby Loss Counselling for Men & Dads
EMDR Therapy in Cornwall & Online
Bupa-Recognised Counselling & EMDR Therapy
Clinical Supervision for Counsellors & Psychotherapists
- Feelings of stress or anxiety
- Panic attacks
- Relationship problems
- Grief, loss or bereavement
- Problems with addiction
- Trauma and post-traumatic stress
- Abuse
- Depression
- Problems with confidence or self-esteem
- Anger management
- Issues relating to sexuality
- Difficulties at work or in retirement
- Problems with family or school life
What People Say
Taking the First Step
If you’ve never spoken to a counsellor before, it’s completely normal to feel uncertain.
You don’t need to have all the answers before getting in touch.
You don’t even need to know exactly what to say.
If you’d like an informal conversation first, I’d be happy to answer your questions and help you decide whether I’m the right therapist for you