The Silent Grief: Male Baby Loss
When a baby is lost, the world often turns its attention to the mother. But fathers grieve too—and often in silence. Male baby loss is a heartbreak that’s rarely acknowledged, let alone understood. Men are expected to be strong, to support their partners, to hold it together. But behind closed doors, many carry their pain alone.
The loss of a baby shatters hopes and dreams. For fathers, it can feel like losing a future they were just beginning to imagine. They might suppress their emotions, not because they don’t feel deeply, but because they think they’re not allowed to show it. The result? Isolation, guilt, and unresolved grief.
We need to change that. Fathers need space to mourn, to talk, to cry if they need to. They deserve the same compassion and support as mothers. Recognising male baby loss doesn’t take anything away from a mother’s pain—it simply makes room for all grief in the room.
If you’re a dad who's experienced this kind of loss, know that your grief is real. You're not alone. And you don’t have to stay silent.
Let’s make space for every parent’s heartbreak. Every story matters. Including his.
I lost my son Ray when he was 7 weeks old and found it so valuable to have a Counsellor to speak to. Our weekly online counselling sessions allowed me to function, look after my family and continue to work.
If you need to speak to a male therapist who understands, has lived through and continues to live with this terrible loss then please get in touch.