NICU Awareness Month: A Father’s Story of Trauma, Anxiety and Healing Through Therapy
My Experience of the NICU as a Dad
When my son arrived at 32 weeks, life changed in an instant. Instead of weeks preparing for fatherhood, we faced a five-week stay in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU).
The NICU is a place of hope and miracles, but also of constant worry and emotional exhaustion. For me as a dad, there was an unspoken pressure to stay strong, to hold it all together. Inside, I felt powerless, anxious and unsure who to turn to.
Like many men, I bottled it up. And like many fathers, I discovered that the impact of NICU doesn’t end when you leave the hospital.
The Mental Health Impact of NICU on Parents
Research shows the toll is very real:
96% of parents with a baby in neonatal care say their mental health is negatively affected.
Around 40% experience anxiety or post-traumatic stress in the first month.
One in three mothers report depression, anxiety or trauma symptoms six months later.
Fathers are often overlooked in research, but the emotional weight is just as heavy.
This is not weakness. It’s trauma. And without support, it can affect every part of life, from relationships to work to your ability to enjoy fatherhood.
Why Therapy Helps Fathers After NICU
Therapy provides a safe space to process fear, grief and anxiety. For dads, it’s often the first time they’ve been encouraged to talk openly about their experience. Approaches like CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) can help reduce trauma symptoms, calm anxiety, and rebuild confidence.
Reaching out for therapy is not failing. It’s choosing to heal. It’s an investment in yourself, your wellbeing, and your family.
Support for Men’s Mental Health in Cornwall and Online Across the UK
As a counsellor, EMDR therapist and father, I specialise in working with men who are struggling with:
Anxiety after NICU or premature birth
Depression linked to fatherhood, trauma or loss
Baby loss and grief
PTSD and traumatic memories
The pressure of being “the strong one”
If you recognise yourself in any of this, you don’t need to carry it alone.
Send me a message if you’re ready to talk, or even if you’re just thinking about it. That first step might feel big, but it could be the start of something better.
🔹 Face to face sessions in Helston, Cornwall
🔹 Online therapy available UK wide
Lee: Men’s Counsellor | Baby Loss | Anxiety | Depression
📞 Call or text: 07873 665713
📧 Email: leemartincounselling@gmail.com