Baby loss changes everything.
For many fathers and partners, the grief can be confusing, isolating and hard to put into words. While much of the support understandably focuses on mothers, many men find themselves trying to stay strong, return to work, and hold everything together — often while quietly carrying trauma, anxiety or a deep sense of loss.
I recently had an article published in Counselling Directory exploring how fathers experience baby loss, why many men grieve differently, and how this can impact their mental health.
👉 You can read the full Counselling Directory article on fathers and baby loss here:
Baby Loss: Why Fathers and Partners often grieve in silence
In the article, I discuss:
Why some men feel pressure to suppress their grief
The impact of miscarriage and stillbirth on fathers
Trauma responses following hospital or medical experiences
The long-term emotional effect when grief isn’t processed
Baby loss doesn’t just affect one person in a relationship. Many men experience anxiety, anger, guilt, emotional numbness, or intrusive memories afterwards but feel unsure whether they’re “allowed” to seek support.
As a therapist specialising in Mens Baby Loss in the U.K, I work with fathers and partners navigating miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal loss.
Where trauma symptoms are present such as flashbacks, avoidance, or ongoing distress linked to medical experiences: I also integrate EMDR for Trauma after Baby Loss to help process those experiences safely and effectively.
You can find out more about my wider work supporting men with grief, anxiety and trauma here:
Mens Baby Loss counselling and support
Fathers’ grief matters.
And it deserves recognition and support.
About the Author
Lee Martin is a UK-based men’s counsellor and EMDR therapist specialising in baby loss, trauma, anxiety and depression. He works with fathers and partners navigating miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal loss.
🔹 Face-to-face sessions in Helston, Cornwall
🔹 Online therapy available UK wide
📞 Call or text: 07873 665713
📧 Email: leemartincounselling@gmail.com
Send me a message if you’re ready to talk, or even if you’re just thinking about it. That first step might feel big, but it could be the start of something better.